Posts Tagged ‘Thanksgiving’

There all kinds of customs that I never thought I’d be heir to. Oh, say, getting to use the word “fiancé”. 

We never expected to have a legal marriage or formal wedding ceremony, nor any of the registry business…and what would you put in a dyke trousseau, anyway?  A long-standing joke was that our housewarming/bridal gifts were all from Saturn [in the form of a hefty Target gift card that came with one of my vehicle purchases]. 

But as we set the Thanksgiving table for our family guests this year, there were plenty of formal items a woman might have expected to get as wedding presents: gold-rimmed china from my great grandmother [she ordered it piece by piece by subscription], silver from my great aunt [the untarnished, rarely used mate to the set my grandmother, her sister, used on a daily basis], serving dishes from both families, flatware from one apartment, carving knives from Word’s grandparents….

Wine [recommended by Purlewe and ElusiveS from their trip to France] gets poured into a motley set of glasses while Word and I sip gin and tonics from my grandfather’s engraved Old Fashioned glasses.  We eat, laugh, and discuss where the food came from, and the fun of deciding which recipes to prepare. 

Ordinary.  Wonderful.


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The custom of the day changes over time: 5 years of marching in the morning, followed by curlers and clothing changes, and heading over to Grandmother’s house with a slightly burnt tongue from the Bandparent’s hot chocolate and an evil-smelling corsage held together only by the netting around the blue-dyed mum…. 10 years or so of rushing home from one University or other, suffering from car-lag and wondering how all the semester’s projects were going to get wrapped in the few days remaining ….we won’t count how many years of student portfolios, reports, and home observations of holidays, all stacked and glowering in a corner while I tried to focus on being with family for a few hours….

Today we get in a car, drive over several rivers, and into the woods, and arrive at a house where the family has adopted me.  We will eat, make merry, talk about work (!), and maybe go looking for fossils.

I’m grateful for everything.  Blessings to you and yours, however far away, this holiday.

Ai Wei Wei’s Moon Gates: thick teak panels with successive cut-outs that show the phases of the Moon in light and shadow.

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